Allah commands shunning the disbelievers, even if they are one's parents or
children, and prohibits taking them as supporters if they choose disbelief
instead of faith. Allah warns,
[لاَّ تَجِدُ قَوْماً
يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الاٌّخِرِ يُوَآدُّونَ مَنْ حَآدَّ اللَّهَ
وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَوْ كَانُواْ ءَابَآءَهُمْ أَوْ أَبْنَآءَهُمْ أَوْ إِخْوَنَهُمْ
أَوْ عَشِيرَتَهُمْ أُوْلَـئِكَ كَتَبَ فِى قُلُوبِهِمُ الإِيمَـنَ وَأَيَّدَهُمْ
بِرُوحٍ مِّنْهُ وَيُدْخِلُهُمْ جَنَّـتٍ تَجْرِى مِن تَحْتِهَا
الاٌّنْهَـرُ]
i(You will not find any people who believe in Allah and the Last Day, making
friendship with those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even though they were
their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred (people). For
such He has written (predetermined) faith in their hearts, and strengthened them
with a Ruh (proof, light and true guidance) from Himself. And He will admit them
to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow.) [58:22] Al-Hafiz Al-Bayhaqi
recorded that `Abdullah bin Shawdhab said, "The father of Abu `Ubaydah bin
Al-Jarrah was repeatedly praising the idols to his son on the day of Badr, and
Abu `Ubaydah kept avoiding him. When Al-Jarrah persisted, his son Abu `Ubaydah
headed towards him and killed him. Allah revealed this Ayah in his case,
[لاَّ تَجِدُ قَوْماً
يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الاٌّخِرِ يُوَآدُّونَ مَنْ حَآدَّ اللَّهَ
وَرَسُولَهُ]
(You will not find any people who believe in Allah and the Last Day, making
friendship with those who oppose Allah and His Messenger.'')[58:22] Allah
commanded His Messenger to warn those who prefer their family, relatives or
tribe to Allah, His Messenger and Jihad in His cause,
[قُلْ إِن كَانَ
ءَابَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَآؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَنُكُمْ وَأَزْوَجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ
وَأَمْوَلٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا]
(Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred,
the wealth that you have gained), amassed and collected,
[وَتِجَـرَةٌ
تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَـكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَآ]
(the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you
delight), and prefer and love because they are comfortable and good. If all
these things,
[أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُمْ
مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّصُواْ]
(are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger, and striving hard and
fighting in His cause, then wait...) for what will befall you of Allah's
punishment and torment,
[حَتَّى يَأْتِىَ
اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ وَاللَّهُ لاَ يَهْدِى الْقَوْمَ الْفَـسِقِينَ]
(until Allah brings about His decision. And Allah guides not the people who
are rebellious.) Imam Ahmad recorded that Zuhrah bin Ma`bad said that his
grandfather said, "We were with the Messenger of Allah , while he was holding
the hand of `Umar bin Al-Khattab. `Umar said, `By Allah! You, O Messenger of
Allah, are dearer to me than everything, except for myself.' The Messenger of
Allah said,
«لَا يُؤْمِنُ
أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى أَكُونَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ مِنْ نَفْسِه»
(None among you will attain faith until I become dearer to him than even
himself.) `Umar said, `Verily, now, you are dearer to me than myself, by Allah!'
The Messenger of Allah said,
«الْآنَ يَا
عُمَر»
(Now, O `Umar!)'' Al-Bukhari also collected this Hadith. Imam Ahmad and Abu
Dawud (this is the version of Abu Dawud) recorded that Ibn `Umar said, "I heard
the Messenger of Allah saying,
إِذَا تَبَايَعْتُمْ
بِالْعِينَةِ وَأَخَذْتُمْ بِأَذْنَابِ الْبَقَرِ وَرَضِيتُمْ بِالزَّرْعِ،
وَتَرَكْتُمُ الْجِهَادَ سَلَّطَ اللهُ عَلَيْكُمْ ذُلًّا لَا يَنْزِعُهُ حَتَّى
تَرْجِعُوا إِلَى دِينِكُم»
(If you transact in `Iynah (a type of Riba), follow the tails of cows
(tilling the land), become content with agriculture and abandoned Jihad, Allah
will send on you disgrace that He will not remove until, you return to your
religion.)''
[لَقَدْ نَصَرَكُمُ
اللَّهُ فِى مَوَاطِنَ كَثِيرَةٍ وَيَوْمَ حُنَيْنٍ إِذْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ
كَثْرَتُكُمْ فَلَمْ تُغْنِ عَنكُمْ شَيْئاً وَضَاقَتْ عَلَيْكُمُ الأَرْضُ بِمَا
رَحُبَتْ ثُمَّ وَلَّيْتُم مُّدْبِرِينَ - ثُمَّ أَنزَلَ اللَّهُ سَكِينَتَهُ عَلَى
رَسُولِهِ وَعَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَأَنزَلَ جُنُوداً لَّمْ تَرَوْهَا وَعذَّبَ
الَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ وَذلِكَ جَزَآءُ الْكَـفِرِينَ - ثُمَّ يَتُوبُ اللَّهُ مِن
بَعْدِ ذَلِكَ عَلَى مَن يَشَآءُ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ ]
(25. Truly, Allah has given you victory on many battlefields, and on the day
of Hunayn (battle) when you rejoiced at your great number, but it availed you
naught and the earth, vast as it is, was straitened for you, then you turned
back in flight). (26. Then Allah did send down His Sakinah (tranquility) on His
Messenger, and on the believers, and sent down forces (angels) which you saw
not, and punished the disbelievers. Such is the recompense of disbelievers).
(27. Then after that Allah will accept the repentance of whom He wills. And
Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.)
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